Posts tagged family
Are you in the holiday spirit?

Are you already all decorated for Christmas? Starting to shop? In the Christmas spirit?

Or are you just going through the motions to get to 2021?!?

I was in the camp that I just wanted Christmas to come so the year would be over! It has been rough. So many unknowns. I run into scared, rude people every time I leave my home.

As I started getting into my decorations and ornaments, though, with my favorite Christmas album playing, I can say I can’t wait! The spirit of Christmas has really kicked in.

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Protecting Yourself This Holiday Season

The holidays can feel threatening in many ways. You may feel the desire to put on a coat of armor and build a wall around your loved ones. Maybe your in-laws will be extra critical at family gatherings. Maybe your sister will make comments about the way you look or your Aunt Lolly will making cutting remarks about your parenting skills.

When people are together, hurt is possible and probable.

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Cavan's "HELLth" journey with Lyme disease

You would never think the woman here is struggling, would you?

You would think this woman has it all together.

She is battling a silent disease.

She is weak, has vertigo often, shortness of breath, and seizure like spells. She rarely went out, could no longer drive, and had to make herself get off the coach. She couldn’t believe that she looked fine while feeling so awful.

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Meal Planning and Prep

Here are some tips and tricks I've learned along the way:

  • Have some basic tools on hand: a cutting board, a sharp knife, some glass bakeware, cookie sheets, some good pots and pans, some strainers, a veggie steamer that sits in a pot, A GARLIC PRESS!!, a splatter screen for when you put things in hot oil - this will save you lots of clean up, ohhh and a veggie chopper - allows you to chop onions without crying and may or may not help you take out the days anger on an onion (I have to laugh - we lived with a family when we were first married, in their mother-in-law suite… they always knew when I was chopping onions!) Having the tools you will need makes it much less stressful and daunting.

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Beauty In Imperfections

I had no clue about Wabi-sabi until I googled “imperfect nature” in a quest to illustrate to my daughter that things can be beautiful even if they aren’t perfect. In my searching, I discovered Wabi-sabi, a Japanese worldview based on the concept that emphasizes finding beauty in imperfection.

Picture this. My daughter and I were sitting at the table and I had given her a matching letters activity. Her job was to find the matching letter, I would put down some glue, and she would stick on the matching letter. Several times after sticking the matching letter on the page, she started crying and exclaiming, “No, it’s not perfect, I want it to be perfect”.

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Can you strengthen your immune system?

The narrative of the time has been for people to

WASH YOUR HANDS!

And although we have been surprised by how many people do not wash their hands on a regular basis, I believe we need other tools and strategies to understand and help support and strengthen our immune system.

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Are you a control freak?

Do you know this scenario?!? If you are a parent I’m sure you do! The battle of the wills!

I have had the pleasure of giving births to three very strong willed children. They express their desires and ‘non-negotiables” very differently but nonetheless, I have been in this situation MANY, MANY times!

I have also been the little girl. Daily! I have a very strong will. I set expectations about the day or the outcome and I am VERY frustrated when I don’t “get my way”.

You too?

Your kids too?

Your partner too?

Your parents too?

Your “_______________” (fill in the blank) TOO!?!!?!

What do you expect!?!?

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Mom Dreams

So often, we live lives of numbing.

It’s no wonder moms are typically left speechless when asked “What do you dream about doing with your days?”.

I recently sat (kid free) with my dear girl friend and the topic of the future landed in our laps. She and I are both at a point in life where our full time job includes raising littles. I wasn’t going to let this opportunity pass us by. I simply asked her, “What do you dream about doing? What feels life giving to you?”.

She paused.

A long pause.

“I don’t know, I can’t remember the last time I thought about it,” she said.

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Mom, please slow down!

How many times has your little one asked you to slow down?

My poor kids. I am a power walker. It’s just how I grocery shop and walk to the car. I forgot when they were small that their little legs couldn’t keep up. Bless their little hearts. How they endured me, I’ll never know.

I sure wish I would have listened.

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Are you in the "grief club"?

Grief.

Grief is an enemy and a friend. That is why when you have experienced extreme grief you feel connected to others who have as well. You feel part of the same “club”.

This “grief club” knows that grief is like a torturous villain that surprises you with his presence. When you least expect it fills your heart with so much pain you feel like you could die.

This “grief club” knows that grief is like riding a roller coaster in the dark. You don’t know when you’re going to go up and then plummet down without warning.

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How are you REALLY doing right now?

How are you doing?

We are so united as a human race right now! I can safely say every single person has just had their life altered in some way!

How are you doing?

No, how are you REALLY doing?

Are you so busy taking care of so many people that you have forgotten to take care of the basics? We all need to take care of ourselves if we are to get through this time of intense trial healthy and with our relationships in tact.

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Checking In When You are Shut In

I’m feeling the need to check in with you!! How are you doing!?!? Are you checking in with yourself each day?!? I”m concerned for you all!!

We are a few days into a semi-quarantined state. COVID19 has landed on our globe. Kids are going to doing virtual school and will be home full time. We aren’t going out.

We aren’t going to sports.

I have to do my own grocery shopping and not order them to be delivered. (torture, am I right?!?)

I can’t hire a babysitter.

This is just like the difficult and sometimes miserable old days when I was a stay at home mom.

Yep, I said it.

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Let Go to Recharge

Let go of control and do what you need to recharge!

Don’t think for one second that I am not pinching myself in gratitude that this is where I live. I have chosen to live in Florida because I learned as a very young adult that I had to be in the sunshine in order for me to thrive. I went back to college in Cleveland Ohio and really struggled in the winter when I didn’t see the sun. I knew at age 20 that I had to design a life that I loved and moved to Florida. I promised myself that I would always appreciate the palm trees and the sunshine. 

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Feeling Stuck

Stuck in your life?   There’s no movement, there’s no momentum. And I’ve been feeling it.

I want to go through what I’ve been feeling and how I pull myself out of it.

First, this will have to be consistent behavior that’s chosen, so that it can become habit.  When it becomes a consistent behavior of choosing to have the right mindset about being stuck, then it automatically becomes habit.

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